Who is the best?
So many times in life, we spend this mental energy toward trying to determine who is the best at something. We feel some great overall satisfaction when we know that we have beaten out our competition and won. People prize the trophy, the rewards, and covet the adulates. However in any contest there are winners and losers and it is something that we have to deal with when we enter in such events. But outside of a real contest, is the Win-Lose strategy the right one to follow?
So, why is this bad?
If one continues on the path of always seeking the win at the cost of others they lose the bigger picture of the idea of perpetuating growth. Just like I wouldn't hold back from teaching my child to read and write, I also wouldn't hold back aid to someone in need.
Just as you might see in the martial arts class, some students excel while others struggle. You can either aid the the struggling student or see it as an opportunity to prove you are better than someone.
Perpetuating growth
If you take on the mindset of making others around you better it really is a Win-Win scenario. As you help them get better, you gain a better understanding of what you are teaching. As they grow and improve they will help increase the overall performance of the group and thus everyone gets better in the end.
Whether in the martial arts studio or in life, find Win-Win solutions. It is one of the keys to help you succeed in life.
